Sex Dolls

Are Sex Dolls Sex Positive?

“Jeff” decided to turn to sex toys and eventually sex dolls after facing too much frustration in the dating world. Lemm was bullied growing up, causing him to become introverted and rely on imaginary friends as a child and sex dolls as an adult for “human” companionship. Ozaki turned to sex dolls for intimacy after the spark left his marriage. “Michael” commissioned a sex doll that would take his foot fetish one step further…

Political fervor and social wars have given sex dolls a bad rap. Add to that Western society’s prudishness about sex and you have a world of sexual pleasure, intimate contact, and touching companionship that exists almost entirely in the dark. Still, you can find stories of men like the ones above on forums, in online magazines, and even the New York Post and Independent.

As a Feminist, it is easy for me to look at a perfectly sculpted body and say “Well, that is just creating an idealized object to lust over.” Then I glance at some of the dolls at siliconwives.com and see full-figured shapes with ample thighs and buttocks. While silicone still restricts just how much mass can be placed on them, some of these dolls have begun to resemble my body – full-figured from life and child-bearing – rather than lithe, perky models.

It is startling enough to make me admit that yes, I linger over the pictures of these dolls and admire their beauty. The skill that has gone into crafting something so lifelike is amazing and I understand the sentiment of the man who brushes the hair from the face of his doll and the connection that can develop between something synthetic and someone flesh and blood.

This brings us to the question of the hour – are sex dolls sex-positive? Before I delve into that, I want to look at the history of the sex doll.

Sex Dolls

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A Sailor’s Fancy

Now that we have been talking about sex dolls for a little while if I bring up Airplanes! Your mind is probably going to turn immediately to the inflatable pilot that Elaine has to fix to make the autopilot system functional.

For a lot of people, the plastic inflatable is the image of the sex doll. For those familiar with the new, high-quality silicone dolls, they may think that the craze began in the seventies with these cheaply made sex toys.

The sex doll is far older. Known as the dame de voyage, the first sex dolls were collections of cloth put together into roughly human shape to keep 17th-century French sailors entertained (it would have to be the French!).

Early 20th-century sex dolls had apparatus that simulated ejaculation (whether for male or female pleasure is unspecified, but probably for either). There were even reports during World War II of German soldiers having the company of sex dolls.

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The Modern Sex Doll

Modern Sex Dolls have come a long way from the cloth creations of sailors. Blow-up dolls, usually made of durable plastics, have been a staple of sex shops for decades. As our ability to produce fine synthetics has increased, however, so too have the sex dolls.

Today’s high-end sex doll is as far removed from inflatables as inflatables are from cloth dolls. Made of silicone or thermoplastic elastomers (TPE) with complex skeletal structures and detailed features, these dolls are expressive. Each is a work of art, an aesthetic independent of their purpose.

Looking at a modern sex doll, it’s easy to understand why a man would want one. Looking at their soft features, it’s conceivable that one could develop affection over time.
The question remains, however: can something that creates an object of the female form be sex-positive?

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Sex Positivity

From a Feminist perspective, it’s easy to look at a Sex Doll and say, “This is exploitative of the feminine form.” Everything about a Sex Doll designed for a man to use is focused on him. She pleases his eye for his gaze. The orifices of her body are for his sexual gratification.

Sex Positivity, however, digs a little deeper into sexuality and sexual expression. A Sex Doll is not automatically exploitative just because she’s patterned after a human body. Even one designed to look like a person is ethical since the companies that make the dolls require the model’s consent.

Sex Positivity at its core is about Agency. Agency is, simply put, one’s capacity and ability to make decisions and act for oneself. When we decide to do an action by our reasoning, we show the capacity of the Agency. When we act on that decision of our own accord, we demonstrate Agency.

The modern Sex Doll is devoid of free will or independent action. While we have begun incorporating A.I. into some models, we are still a long way away from a self-determining, self-aware artificial consciousness.
When it comes to sex dolls, the Agency lies with those who purchase and own the dolls. For them, the dolls are a way to achieve sexual expression. Check www.xinghaoya.net for more help.

So is the Sex Doll Sex Positive? That’s really up to us. For the men (and women!) that use them, if they feel good about the doll, if they take away something fulfilling from the experience, then it’s a Sex Positive thing.

For the rest of us, it’s a question of attitude and acceptance. If we stop stigmatizing sex dolls and sex toys in general, then we create an environment where we can look at these objects with an attitude that does not shame those who use them.

That is Sex Positive.